Self care month: Prioritising yourself

Your biggest strength is being yourself. Like promised, here’s the first article of self care month - prioritising yourself!! Do read and lemme know what you think!! Like, share, comment and follow for more :)

Many of us confuse prioritising ourselves with being selfish. there’s a thin line between both: It’s not about being self centered but about being self aware.

Prioritising ourselves is an essential pillar of self care. And how so? When we prioritise ourselves, we feel good about ourselves. And when we feel good from within, everything around us feels better.

But the real problem is, how do we prioritise ourselves? Our mind is always conflicted; ‘am I being selfish’? Ask yourself; is this going to hurt others? If not, you’ve got your answer! Though sometimes prioritising ourselves may hurt others,but don’t you worry. This is where prioritising can get hard.

The first step is trading expectations for acceptance. If a certain situation is not how want it to be, or you expected something else out of it. Learn to accept. It’s okay if a few things don’t go your way. Is it so important that your mental health has to suffer? You have to know, that you are not perfect and that’s completely OKAY. You have everything Within you; good, bad, messy, calm, kind, complex. Embrace yourself. Prioritise mindfulness. It’ll help you stay calm. And that’s self care, right? At the same time, be okay to accept your mistakes. This is only going to help you grow.

Step two: understand that you are not responsible for everything. We often get into a viscous cycle of overthinking and self doubt when something goes wrong. You have to realise that it’s not your job to be everything to everyone, nor do everything for everyone. In some way or the other, everyone is responsible for their own life. Their reactions show their thought process and expressions, not yours.

Step three: don’t worry about judgement. I know this is probably the hardest. But trust me, it’s okay to live a life others don’t understand. As long as you are clear on your rules, what anyone else thinks doesn’t even matter :) and when you are unapologetically yourself, you attract more positivity!!

Step four: Be okay with the idea of failing. We often feel that if we fail or don’t reach up to expectations we aren’t worthy of any good moments/ things. Strength does not come from winning, it comes from dealing with failures.That just lowers your self esteem, and results in comparing with others which is…(pretty unhealthy). You’d say, ‘how is it related to prioritising yourself?’. Well, when you compare you subconsciously try to bring into you the things that the other person is good at. Being yourself goes down the drain. And ultimately prioritising yourself goes down the drain,Right?

Step five: Stay true to yourself. External validation does not prove your worth. Don’t spend time thinking about others, especially the ones who don’t make a good difference by being in your life.

Don’t apologise for being emotional, or sensitive. Embrace how you are, believe in yourself.

Step six: Empathy and kindness for yourself and other. Understand that there as many people who’ll bring you down as there are who’ll push you up. Choose your kind of people. Most importantly, be the person who pushes up for yourself (and for others too). When you are your biggest supporter, chances of self doubt, and the urge of external validation are simply gone.

Lastly remember your P’s: patience, potential, positivity, passion, perseverance, progress and presence.

I hope this helped!! Have a great day!! Lemme know what you think, like, share and comment :)

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xoxo

Advika